"Gambill was one of several students who filed a federal complaint against the university at the beginning of the year, alleging UNC has created a “hostile environment” for rape victims attempting to report sexual crimes. In February, the sophomore faced an honor code violation that claimed she “intimidated” her alleged rapist by publicly sharing the story of her sexual assault — even though she never named him, simply referring to him as an “ex-boyfriend.” Later that year, even after the male student in question had been found guilty of sexually harassing Gambill, he was reassigned to a dorm building “ in close proximity” to hers. "
It’s really an uphill battle on a lot of colleges campuses to change institutionalized mistreatment of rape cases.
there’s so much on here about godawful sex experiences, of which I had one a year or so ago, and I wanted to share something nice
my current boyfriend is aware that I suffer from PTSD and during sex the other day I disassociated and ran away, locking myself in a room. he put his clothes on, picked up my clothes, and sat outside the door quietly, checking I was okay/if I wanted water every few minutes, and told me that when and if I wanted him in there he’d come in. he even offered to bring me my computer or load a few episodes of my favourite show. when I finally let him in he didn’t touch me at all, just put my clothes near me and said I was in control of the situation and we’d talk/touch whenever I was ready. he’s calmly and happily agreed not to do anything sexual at all for a month or so. some people are nice in the world, and I promise not all of humanity is as twisted as it may seem.
Two Texas women announced this week that they were suing Texas state troopers over an unconstitutional roadside body cavity search that occurred on Memorial Day in 2012 caught by dashcam footage, according to Texas news station KHOU.
Brandy Hamilton, 27, and Alexandria Randle, 26, said they on their home to Houston from Surfside beach wearing bikinis when a trooper pulled them over on Texas 288 for speeding. The Houston Chronicle reported that the suit names Trooper Nathaniel Turner, who claimed he smelled marijuana in the car and called a female trooper even though a “search and seizure was highly unreasonable.” The suit also names the director of the Texas Department of Public Safety, responding officer Brazoria County Sheriff’s Deputy Aaron Kindred and the Brazoria County sheriff.
In dashcam footage, Hamilton can be heard saying “Do you know how violated I feel?” to Trooper Jennie Bui as she was searched.
Randle said that the she only had one glove that was used to search both of them. “She just came right over and there was no switch out of anything — which is disgusting,” Randle said at a Wednesday press conference recorded by KHOU.
The Chronicle published a statement on Wednesday from the Texas Department of Public Safety (DPS):
Upon learning of this incident, the Department’s Inspector General immediately conducted an internal investigation, and Trooper Jennie Bui was subsequently terminated by DPS on June 29 (2013). Trooper Nathaniel Turner was suspended from duty on June 10 (2013), and remains suspended by the department pending the outcome of an internal investigation also being conducted by the DPS Office of Inspector General.
DPS Director Steven McCraw told the Chronicle that the agency “does not and will not tolerate any conduct that violates the U.S. and Texas constitutions or DPS training or policy.” The Brazoria County Sheriff’s Office declined to comment.
“The police are there to protect and serve,” Hamilton said during the press conference. “They did not protect me at all.”
Texas troopers faced similar charges of an unauthorized body cavity roadside search in 2012 when two women, 38-year-old Angel Dobbs and her 24-year-old niece, Ashley Dobbs, were subjected to such a search. The Dobbs case was settled in June for $185,000.
"The idea of enthusiastic consent is all about making sure that your partner is genuinely into having sex… that you are getting clear and unambiguous signals that he or she wants to fuck. It’s the difference between “Dear God I want to fuck you right now” and “Yeah… I guess, whatever” when they really mean “no”. Similarly, a partner who is simply not resisting but otherwise not saying anything is not giving enthusiastic consent. It’s about more than just needing to get off – because that’s easy enough to do on your own – but having an experience with your partner. It makes sex about the two (or more…) of you rather than one person using the other as a sex toy that can occasionally help move boxes and dust the window sills. "